The number of caregivers worldwide has reached an all time high. According to a 2008 report by the Fisher Center for Alzheimer’s Research Foundation, there were, at that time, approximately a million caregivers just for those with Alzheimer’s disease. That doesn’t include caregivers for any other illnesses. Baby Boomers are inching into senior citizen territory as well as retirement (self-imposed or otherwise). Not only are many of them caring for parents but a rising number are in need of care themselves.
The scenario demonstrated by flight attendants for decades is just as true with caregiving: The able bodied need to first put on their oxygen masks, literally or figuratively, then help others. In order to give the best care, it is optimal if the caregiver is a good place emotionally, physically, and mentally. Caregiving responsibilities carry with them built in challenges. With help, caregivers can be even more productive taking care of those who depend on them.
Time Off for Caregivers
Respite can be found in a number of places such as volunteer organizations, family, friends, churches and spiritual groups, and senior centers. Some groups offer weekend respite, allowing the caregiver to take a mini vacation away from the caregiving site. Even just a few hours away can work wonders to calm a caregiver’s mind, making it possible to return to the job at hand with a fresh outlook.
Show Appreciation
Little things mean so much. Caregivers are often so busy with the people in their charge that they forget to slow down and reward themselves occasionally. Taking a minute to say “Thank you” to a caregiver can light up a day. Dropping by with coffee and muffins is one way to start a caregiver’s morning off on the right foot.
Perhaps neighbors can collaborate and alternate making supper for the caregiver and family once a week or making few days’ supply to be frozen for later use. Stopping by to clean a bathroom or do a few loads of laundry are some ways to help out that don’t cost any money but can be invaluable to a person who has his or her hands full with caring for someone else on a full-time basis.
Patience
A caregiver can get bogged down with the worries and schedules of the person he or she cares for and the caregiver’s routine goes by the wayside. If a caregiver seems to be forgetful of birthdays, appointment, or other events, remember that his or her life may be turned upside down. Caregiving can take over all parts of a person's life, to the extent that the life led before caregiving is all but forgotten.
Listen to the Caregiver
Listening with the heart as well as with the ears can be so important when a caregiver needs support. Being there is more appreciated than words might be able to say. Being available in person, over the phone, or via email can make all the difference.
Pay a Bill
Often a caregiver must give up a paying job in order to take care of a family member. The loss of income causes more stress in an already tense situation. The offer to pay an occasional bill or even take over a regular utility or cable bill will take a load off of the family.
Many people find it difficult to accept help themselves. They may feel that it is accepting charity to allow someone outside of the situation to help, especially if the assistance comes in the form of money. If this is the case, don’t be offended, but offer other types of help that are more acceptable. Giving of oneself can be the best gift of all.
Resources:
Caregivers.org Website (accessed November 25, 2009)
Alzheimer’s Association Website (accessed November 25, 2009)
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